I saw part of a show on TV yesterday. It was parents who never said 'no' to their children. There was one woman who is now 23yrs old. She is well educated, married and has her own children, yet she still feels that her mother should pay her bills for her, if she asks her to. She expects it. A mother should WANT to do that.
The question was, what is showing love? Is is never saying no? Or is it teaching them to be responsible adults? Teaching them to do it themselves, so that they can take pride in saying: I did that! From little children saying: I made my own bed! to adults saying: I am taking care of my family. or I made a mistake, I am going to own up to it, and take responsibility, pay the price.
Are you doing your child a favour by cleaning up their messes? By not holding them accountable? Is it responsible parenting, teaching someone that there are no repercussions for their actions? Or is it breeding Narcissism?
What is unacceptable behaviour in a 2 yr old, is suddenly fine, if you are an adult.
Why is that?
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